Living and working with anxiety and depression 11th December 2021 Day 52 The one where a visit from a friend makes a difference and Faith comes home....

 It was a great start to my day to receive a text message from a friend at work asking if they could visit this morning. 

Because of my current irrational fears of actually going anywhere and with Faith being in North Wales since yesterday I was staring at a day of enforced woodwork in the cold garage just to keep me occupied. Which is very much the wrong reason to be in there!


So someone paying a visit. Giving up some of their time to sit and chat with a person who has cut themself off from circulation and conversation. This is just what the individual in this situation needs. No matter how hard it is for them. The fact that someone wants to see them. To check in with them. Means the world. 


And the visit itself was a pleasure. An hour or so of me trying to get back to being me. Laughing, chatting, complaining, listening to the cud being chewed. Thank you it was enjoyable and relaxing.


Once visiting time was over I consigned myself to the garage once more. Where I am now mentally and physically prepping for market tomorrow.... But we have a problem.. I recently had help moving a lathe into the workshop. Unfortunately this has resulted in a very painful injury to my lower back. 

So after a couple of hours I'm more or less decided that I won't be attending my last and possibly most profitable market of the year. 


Now here's some positives from all of this...

Firstly a few weeks ago being in pain and restricted in movement as I have been for a few days now would have taken me back down to the "bad place". But I really really do not want to return there. 

So my heals are firmly dug in and my vision is forward.  I know that to give any amount of ground to feelings of defeat or solitude would be so harmful at this juncture.


Also, the pressure is off now. Nothing to prepare and no need to pack the car.(not that I could anyway)and not standing at a stall in the cold for six hours tomorrow.


Looking back at my day the high point has to be the visit from a friend. 


A person going through this will welcome the presence of another in their company. Just to show that your actually in someone's mind. And they don't think badly of you or judge you in any way. That's often all it can take to make a positive difference in someone's world....


It's good to have my amazing wife back home and to know I have a few real friends. 



Be nice to each other..


Pete x




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